As everyone climbs up the ladder of success, I felt inclined to talk about an area that many of us may lightly ponder: fulfillment and leaving a legacy.
Tony Robbins says that we have six needs, four of which everyone needs. The last two are what he calls “The Art of Fulfillment”. He calls it an art because there isn’t one right way to be fulfilled, and there isn’t a system that everyone can specifically follow to find fulfillment. But there are two spiritual needs, which are growth and contribution. What we do to promote personal growth in our lives, and how we contribute to society, will dictate whether or not we experience fulfillment.
I believe that a great exercise to realize more fulfilling desires in life is to do the following:
1. Relax your mind by finding a quiet place, without distractions.
2. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, breathing in through your nose and breathing out through your mouth, slowly and gently for 2 minutes.
3. Once you feel relaxed, smile while keeping your eyes closed.
4. Now imagine that you are sitting in a rocking chair at the end of your life, reflecting on everything you’ve done; the people you’ve met, and who you’ve become because of the situations you took on.
5. As your elderly self, rocking back and forth in your chair, reflect on the fulfilling life you’ve lived; what have you achieved? What have you done for the world? What is your legacy?
6. Experience those memories as if you achieved them already. Engage your senses. What do you see? Who is there? Do you smell anything? How do you feel? What do you hear?
7. Record your voice on your phone or computer and narrate everything you are looking back on. I personally used the Audio Memo application on my iPhone because you can keep recording as long as you have the space for it. Recording your voice may be more effective in keeping you in your zone, instead of stopping to write everything down in these moments. Experience the visions to these questions and speak them aloud into the recording, expressing yourself with the emotion you happen to be feeling at the moment. This is your legacy. It’s something that should get you excited about and your voice should convey that excitement and pride:
– What is your legacy?
– How do you feel about your legacy? Imagine specific parts of your legacy. How do these specific parts make you feel?
– Who were the key influences in your life and how did they shape your character, while reflecting as your old self.
– What accomplishments are you reliving? What were the challenges that you had to overcome to accomplish these defining moments?
– Express anything you see that relates to your legacy and the memories associated with them. How do these images appear? Are the images very rich and bright in color? State that. Are people talking as you experience your legacy? Who are they? What are they saying? How are you carrying yourself as you create your legacy? Imagine that and record how it feels and what you are doing.
8. Save it and listen to it once a week. It will become an audio vision set in motion the more you listen to it, visualize it, and remember the feelings associated with your legacy.
After completing this, we can then listen to the recording again and sort out the key pieces to our legacy and what fulfills us. In other words, we can define fulfillment according to our legacy. Of course, I am confident that even if you just start writing down things that fulfill you, you can come up with an accurate batch of activities/actions/rituals/relationships that really connect with you from a deep place. The legacy visualization is awesome in that you experience an actual vision that powerfully activates your imagination, which brings out more emotion than merely listing fulfilling activities down. It can serve as a greater emotive force for your meaning of fulfillment, which promotes baby action steps toward your legacy/fulfillment.
So, to an extremely powerful word defined by you. Here we go…
What does fulfillment mean to you? What is your definition of fulfillment?
To me, fulfillment means having a passionate career that positively influences people from many countries; showing consistent love and enthusiasm for family and friends because I value them in my life; eating food that provides my body with rich nutrients so that I have more energy to contribute to worldwide well-being, one person at a time; exercising my body regularly to keep my energy and confidence high; the good fortune of traveling around the world for business and cultural understanding; a morning ritual to wake up my body and compose my mind as I tackle my day with enthusiasm; absorbing knowledge from books, audios, videos, seminars throughout my life to build my character, becoming a more empowered individual because I implement what I learn.
Now, in terms of your life and aspirations, how do you define fulfillment?
It’s said repeatedly in the personal development community that the thing we always have control over in our lives is not the situation itself, but the meaning we attribute to it. It’s not what’s presented to us, but how we represent it. This applies to nearly everything. My high school motto would remind you to “Keep rowing not drifting”.
If you follow through with everything here, you will have visualized your legacy, recorded it so that you can have it in your ear at any time to garner the emotions felt with stronger daily intentions, and defined fulfillment on your terms. This means you now have more power and momentum to consciously define success, happiness, love, frustration, everything in your life, so that you are the captain of your boat rather than swayed by the currents of other people. May these two exercises give birth to more clarity and purposeful action.
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